Now that I have a bit of time to catch up, I’m going to back track to our trip last month...
Part I: Masa and Maggie’s wedding in Tokyo
The weekend we spent in Tokyo was complete with a traditional Shinto-style wedding and complaints from women about how difficult it is dating and finding a mate in Japan.

We spent a couple days with my mother’s cousin Tatsuro in the Tokyo area. He studied physical therapy in California and decided to move back to Japan where physical therapy was relatively unknown. He now has his own clinic and many young students (who all happen to be women) who study with him. He lives alone with his daughter Kaguya so his students all take care of him and his house. They threw us a delicious Japanese-style BBQ and then we got talking about how hard it is for women to date in Japan.

Apparently you can’t just meet someone at a bar or party and ask if they want to hang out. Once you decide to go on a date, you’re dating and on your way to getting married. One woman was explaining how her parents are spending all this money on a matchmaker and that she’s been on a few dates but hasn’t met the right guy so she feels bad that her parents are spending all this money. Her parents aren’t going to stop until she finds someone though. She was pretty much crying when we were all talking about it!

I’ve heard this a lot from young women here, especially those in their 30s. I guess there’s more pressure to get married at that point and once you pass 40, you’re apparently considered a freak if you’re not a married woman. It’s rough!

But on to happier times... Masa got married! We were really honored to be invited to his wedding. It was nice to see friends from home and meet his parents and family. It was a Shinto-style wedding at a very famous temple in Tokyo called Meiji Shingu. Masa and Maggie were decked out in beautiful kimono. He looked so grown up! Masa was all mature and husbandry, he’s a new man! Maggie looked so elegant and beautiful.

We, the foreigner friends, were all a little nervous about what we were supposed to do, but it was very cool to be a part of it all. In the waiting room we had sakura-infused tea. It was a little salty, but tasty.

Then we paraded through the shrine garden (through masses of tourists taking our picture) into a special room where the wedding ceremony took place. There was chanting and bells and koto playing, and at points it was so quiet you could hear people’s stomachs growling. It was very elegant and peaceful though.

After the ceremony, we went to the reception. The food was beautiful and so good. I knew the drinks and food would be delicious and endless, but I didn’t expect so much crying! There was no crazy partying or dancing, but instead a lot of heartfelt speeches.

The speeches were poignant, not only because they were grown up and married, but also because they would be moving back to NYC together. So for Maggie, this was goodbye to her friends and family. One of her best friends made a sweet speech about their friendship and could barely get through the tears to finish it. Maggie also made a sweet speech to her family thanking them for their love and support through her life. I looked around the room, and all us girls were sobbing!
It was a beautiful wedding and a wonderful experience. CONGRATULATIONS MASA AND MAGGIE! THANK YOU!